The tools you need for the Situations You Encounter
Healthy relationships are not born they are made by people like you that realize they need to learn, practice and refine the skills needed to improve and enhance their relationships. Contrary to popular myth ‘love at first’, ‘soul mates’, or ‘happily ever after’ are a very narrow snapshot of true relationships. This applies to friendships as well as romances. It is the quality of time between ‘love at first sight’ and ‘happily ever after’ that matters. The first step is to become aware that we may in fact have ȧ part in our relationship problems. The next step is to realize we are lacking some skills that would make interacting with others easier. This is especially true in the relationships with those we are closest to emotionally. The third step is to figure out the skills we need by evaluating the ones we have and why they are on occasion failing us. Fourth, discovering what skill or skills might be more effective. Fifth, experimenting with and practicing these newer skills until they become natural to us.
It is important to not lose our sense of humor or our way as we pursue the WIZMINs needed to create the quality life we want.Â
Wizzie is here to keep you company, make you laugh, and make this journey a bit more fun. You may even meet some of her friends along the way!
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Helping you one skill at at time to improve your interactions with othersÂ
One partner or the other will often come into therapy wishing that their partner would come also. They lament that the relationship will never improve if their partner also will not attend. The truth is that sometimes one person improving their skills can change the dynamics of the relationship for the better. Gaining more interpersonal skills can improve all relationships from romantic partnerships to work colleagues to your children, neighbors or friends. There is no time like now to get started.
An easy three step process. First you locate the skill you think you need. Gain the understanding you need to use it.
Next you practice the skill in the situation(s) you feel you could do better. See if it works or at least improves the interaction.Â
Then keep practicing until the skill becomes second nature. Over time your ability to use the skill effectively will work. Using Life in Progress WIZMIN tools to evaluate your skills will speed up this practice, e.g., behavior chain analysis or running game film.
There are no questions to insignificant to ask. If it is important to you it is important to us. Please be patient for our response thoughtful intentional communication takes time.
