Step into Your Knowing

To know love, let the wind dance between you like the sea between souls linking you without yoking you.

paraphrased from Kahlil Gibran

How do we know there is this thing called the wind?

We hear it. we feel it. We revel or revile it. We can choose how we define our experience of it.

The trees, the shrubs, the dust give form to the wind. What is not seen can still become known.

We do not say the wind does not exist because we cannot see it. We bear witness to it in the dust that spins, giving the wind a form, an image, and so we see the wind but not the wind. Its’ form comes dressed in dust, dancing for us, reminding us that presence can be divined without sight.

The wind is present though not seen.

What can you not see but know is present in your life? How do you know? What are the signs?

Check your reality. Is the dust dancing? In the desert I now call home if there is no wind, the dust does not dance.

Your thoughts, feelings, and history meld to become your knowing.

In your body locate your knowing. Sit with your knowing then trust your knowing.

The success in your life is linked to your trust of your knowing.

Find it. Claim it. Be it.

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One of the concerns often talked about among growing families, that is those growing beyond a first or only child, is the concern of how their children will get along growing up. This is not just a concern for those with newborns, but also among families adopting and fostering children, and individuals who are single parents coming together to form a blended multi-child household.

Regardless of the situation, it is important when you are dealing with children to involve a counselor who will be able to provide some ground rules or a plan, help facilitate concerns or disagreements in an unbiased forum, and be a source of support for unseen or specific challenges.

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Family instability can come in many forms; economic, emotional, social, and physical. The challenges and struggles of family instability can be passed on from generation to generation if the instabilities are not corrected or the family and children do not receive appropriate physical and emotional assistance when needed.

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The Effects of Mental Illness on a Family

What is mental illness?

Mental illness is often called the invisible illness and it affects millions of people each year. While it may present itself in numerous behaviors and physical forms, it originates in the brain and its components; you cannot simply look at someone and determine if they have a mental illness.

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Anyone experiencing a divorce or separation involving a child/children will benefit from creating a parenting plan. A parenting plan is an agreement negotiated by the parents of the child/children and is overseen by the court system to ensure the best interests and needs of the child/children are being addressed.

A parenting plan may be different for each child and may require changes over time, it is, however, a legal document and should be carefully followed to avoid any legal repercussions or forced changes through noncompliance. A solid parenting plan avoids excessive litigation time and expense while reducing stress and anxiety on both the parents and the child/children when it comes to making urgent and major life decisions.

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First, you might be asking yourself, “why would I want premarital counseling?” My partner and I have a great relationship. I mean we are planning on getting married. Why would we do that if our relationship is already wonderful?”

People marry for many reasons but having a great relationship is not always one of those reasons. Premarital counseling prepares you for marriage. It inoculates your relationship from being worn down by problems and distress through identify the strengths and growing edges of your relationship. Identifying potential problem areas earlier can prevent you from the devastation of divorce. The average national divorce rate in the united states is 48%. Divorce is devasting for individuals and families. It takes a toll on your self-esteem, your children, your career, and your wallet. In many cases, couples can grow through these difficult areas and develop an even better relationship with each other. Before you plan that expensive wedding or honeymoon invest in your relationship first.

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