INDIVIDUAL FAMILY THERAPIST AND COUNSELOR
Divorce or separation is often experienced as a death. It is met with all the symptoms found in the cycle of grief. If you are contemplating divorce, in the midst of a divorce, or have recently become divorced you have probably felt sadness, depression, blame or guilt, numbness, and possibly even periods of acceptance.
You may have questions. A divorce is good-time for honest self-reflection.
You may be asking yourself:
- What went wrong?
- What was my part?
- How did I manage to make such a poor partner choice?
- What did I do wrong?
- What does this mean for my life now?
- Am I a failure?
- How do I go on?
- Should I date? If so how soon?
If you have children, this can make a divorce and the outcome even more difficult to navigate.
My life is in shambles, how do I keep it together for myself? For my children?
The court wants a …. What is it? How do I schedule it? What does it cost?
How do I help my children?
What do I tell them?
How do I adjust my life when I will have less time with my children?
With a high conflict ex-partner, it can be crazy making. The conflict never ends. It is as bad now as it was when we married. My ex-partner is unreasonable.
How do I manage this relationship?
How do I minimize the impact on my children?
My ex-partner constantly misses parenting time with the children. What do I tell them? How do I manage this with my busy schedule? There is always an excuse. What do I do?
My ex-partner doesn’t meet their financial obligations. What do I do? Do I keep him/her from seeing the children?
How am I going to make it financially?
These are only some of the questions you may ask yourself. Family and friends may or may not be helpful. Often an objective outside professional can assist us through this overwhelming situation.