I Don’t Need a Life Coach

Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.
Thomas Jefferson

I have often heard, “I don’t need a coach… I have a coach, it’s my mom, my dad, my friend, or my spouse!”  I smile to myself, because that translates to “I don’t want someone to tell me the truth.” I don’t want to do my best.” “I don’t want to be faced with the insight and awareness.” “I don’t want movement in my life.” “I want to stay safe, snug, encumbered in that which is comfy to me.”

 

A Coach Speaks Truth

I get it. My coach pisses me off on a regular basis, and I love her for it. She isn’t my parent, my friend, or my partner. She is solely there to tell me the kind truth to assist me in growing myself and my business, in helping me to continue to create the life I want to live! She helps me understand more deeply my life, my challenges, and assists me in moving the boulders in my life out of my path so I can continue to move on in my journey!

 

Why Do the Greats Hire Coaches?

Imagine the great sports player, musicians, actors, actresses, or CEO’s saying I’ve hired my parent, spouse, friend as my coach. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. I’m saying that managing that dual role successfully for both individuals is rare.

 

What does a Coach do?

A coach doesn’t talk to you. A coach listens to you. Reflects it back to you. Tells you the truth in a way that you can hear it, take in, and transform yourself from it. A coach is detached from the outcome. They have their eye on your goal and don’t get sucked into the drama of your life. They fly above it or below it, providing you with a view that you cannot see when you are in the midst of it.

A coach holds you responsible for your life and doesn’t fall for the story you have bought in to about your life, and the people in it. They help you remove every obstacle you have constructed to stop forward movement in your life, so that you can create the life you want. Your coach will love you and challenge you. They will show you how to move up and stay high on the emotional ladder. They will tell you to slow down until you actually, s l o w  d o w n. Live in the present moment, and find happiness right here, where it has been all the time.

Who’s coaching you?

The Benefits of Hiring a Life Coach

Oblivious to the Obvious?

You take on what’s right in front of you. 
You want to do the best you can with the opportunities that you have. 
Don Shula

Several years ago, I worked with a woman that was very good at buying objects, refurbishing them, and reselling them. In fact, she had made a great deal of money doing it.

She came to me because she had just been fired from her job. She had never been fired from a job. She had not been at the job long, and did not like the job, but was still upset that this had occurred. She had over her life a series of jobs at which she was under-earning.

When I asked her why she didn’t take her refurbishing business full-time, there was a stunned silence. Her response was that she just thought she was supposed to have a regular 9 to 5 job with benefits. She had been taught that growing up, and had not seriously considered that she could do anything different. Especially not do what she loved, even though she was already making very good money at it. Seems so obvious, doesn’t it?

Yet, haven’t we all done that? Missed the obvious? Only to be stunned when someone points it out to us. Slow down, step back, take stock. What is before you? Breathe. What have you missed? Do it again.

Slow down, step back, take stock. What is before you? Breathe. What have you missed? Do it again.

Slow down, step back, take stock. What is before you? Breathe. What have you missed? Do it again.

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Is Your Life a Wandering Generality?

Without purpose, your life becomes a “wandering generality,” according to Patrick Williams and Lloyd J. Thomas. When Carnegie wrote, “I am going to spend the first forty years of my life creating a fortune, and the second forty years giving it all away,” he was articulating a clear and focused life path. Yet unlike Carnegie many of us live a life of meaningless wandering.

 

Figuring out which path or purpose to follow can be an overwhelming task. Have you ever thought, “I have no idea what my life purpose is supposed to be? How do I figure out what my purpose is supposed to be? I have lost my life purpose, or completed my life purpose, now what? Why am I alive in this time, this place?”

 

If so consider meditating on the following, write down whatever comes to mind first!

What motivates me? What energizes me? What brings me pleasure? What do I really want? Who do I enjoy? What would I do with my life, if my family would and could support anything I chose to do? If I had no family members to consider what would my future plans be? If I had three months, no obligations, and no financial limitations what would I do with my time? If I had only six months to live how would I spend it? If I were granted five wishes, what would I ask for?

 

Contemplate your answers.

 

Are you on your path?