Marsha Ferrick Coaching
  • Home
  • About Me
  • Blog
  • Coaching
    • Couples Coaching
    • Divorce Coaching
    • Family Coaching
    • Relationship Coaching
    • Wellness Coaching
  • Family Court-Ordered Services
    • Comprehensive Legal Decision-Making Evaluation
    • Forensic Home Study
    • Individual Therapy
    • Independent Psychological Examination
    • Limited Family Assessment
    • Parenting Consultation
    • Therapeutic Intervention
  • Counseling
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Trauma/PTSD
    • Adult
    • Couples
  • Evaluations & Testing
    • Neurological Pre-screening
  • Workbooks | Journals | Media
  • Contact
  • Events
Marsha Ferrick CoachingMarsha Ferrick CoachingMarsha Ferrick CoachingMarsha Ferrick Coaching
  • Home
  • About Me
  • Blog
  • Coaching
    • Couples Coaching
    • Divorce Coaching
    • Family Coaching
    • Relationship Coaching
    • Wellness Coaching
  • Family Court-Ordered Services
    • Comprehensive Legal Decision-Making Evaluation
    • Forensic Home Study
    • Individual Therapy
    • Independent Psychological Examination
    • Limited Family Assessment
    • Parenting Consultation
    • Therapeutic Intervention
  • Counseling
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Trauma/PTSD
    • Adult
    • Couples
  • Evaluations & Testing
    • Neurological Pre-screening
  • Workbooks | Journals | Media
  • Contact
  • Events
  • Home
  • About Me
  • Blog
  • Coaching
    • Couples Coaching
    • Divorce Coaching
    • Family Coaching
    • Relationship Coaching
    • Wellness Coaching
  • Family Court-Ordered Services
    • Comprehensive Legal Decision-Making Evaluation
    • Forensic Home Study
    • Individual Therapy
    • Independent Psychological Examination
    • Limited Family Assessment
    • Parenting Consultation
    • Therapeutic Intervention
  • Counseling
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Trauma/PTSD
    • Adult
    • Couples
  • Evaluations & Testing
    • Neurological Pre-screening
  • Workbooks | Journals | Media
  • Contact
  • Events

Managing Emotional Flooding:  How to Quickly Self-Soothe  

  • November 17, 2014/
  • Posted By : Marsha Ferrick/
  • 0 comments /
  • Under : Abuse & Trauma, Leadership, Life Coaching, Relationships, Team Building

Here are 5 quick steps to self soothing. When you feel flooded during a conversation or argument take a break. Follow these five steps.* Here are five steps to soothe yourself: breathing, relaxation, heaviness, warmth, and imagery.

Step #1—Breathing
The first step is to get control of your breathing. When you are getting flooded, you will find yourself either holding your breath a lot or breathing shallowly. Change your breathing so it is even and you take deep regular breaths. Take your time inhaling and exhaling. Really focus on the exhale!

Step #2—Relaxation
The second step is to find areas of tension in your body. First tense and then relax these muscle groups. First examine your face, particularly your forehead and jaw, then your neck, shoulders, arms, and back.

Step #3—Heaviness
Let the tension flow out, and let yourself start to feel heavy.

Step #4—Warmth
The fourth step is to imagine your body parts becoming warm.

Secret #5—Imagery
As a fifth step, add a calming image of personal safe place you can envision. The key is to meditate, focusing your attention on one calming vision or idea. It can be a very specific place you go to that was once a very comforting place, such as a forest or a beach. Imagine this place as vividly as you can as you calm yourself down.

 

Copyrighted 2014

 

*Based on the work of John & Julie Gottman, PhDs.

 


I Feel Crazy, Am I?

  • November 16, 2014/
  • Posted By : Marsha Ferrick/
  • 0 comments /
  • Under : Abuse & Trauma, Relationships

You may feel crazy but I assure you, you are NOT crazy. You are flooded with emotions, physical feelings that are a re-experiencing of the traumatic event(s). You have body symptoms, intrusive memories and flashbacks that are especially frightening when you have no idea why you are feeling like you do. On top of it your feelings do not fit with what is going on around you.

You could be at the grocery store and see a shirt like the one your father wore when he fondled you the first time at age 7. You feel as if you are 7 again and as if your father is inappropriately touching you again. Yet you know at some level that you are at the grocery to get milk and eggs, you really are 45 years old and that you are a physician with her own practice. Yet you move between the past and present struggling to understand what is going on. If you do not slip all the way into the past (full flashback) and disassociate (lose time) then you will probably be able to get out of the store and get yourself to a safe place. Until you understand what is occurring, and even when you do, it is a terrifying to have and fear it will continue to resurface.

The good news is that once you begin to identify these symptoms you can begin to use some techniques that will help you to ground yourself in the present. A couple simple things that you can tell yourself is “It is not happening now.” “I have already survived it.” “I am safe right now, right now I am safe.” “Nothing or no one is hurting me right now.” “I feel terrible but I am ok.” You may have to tell yourself this a 1000 times but the feelings will pass and you will eventually move from feeling shell shocked into a more ‘normal’ range of feeling for yourself.

If you would like to decrease or eliminate your PTSD symptoms please contact me. Research based treatment for PTSD is effective in 85% of the cases with a reduction in symptoms of more than 70%. You can do more than survive, you can thrive.

 

Copyrighted 2014


GET IN TOUCH

    Have a question?
    Feel free to ask!

    Contact Us


    34406 N. 27th Dr., Bldg 6, Ste 140
    Phoenix, AZ 85085

    +(480) 865-4907
    drferrickassist@gmail.com
    Copyright Marsha Ferrick Coaching 2020. All Rights Reserved