Many years ago a colleague of mine recounted a story told to her by the Chair of her dissertation committee. He recalled that to graduate from one of his programs he had to write a paper that would be read by five random professors at his college that did not know him. He submitted exactly the same paper to each person. He recalled the responses were fascinating. The feedback he received was everything from “This is the best paper I have ever read,” to “This is the worst paper I have read.” So how could one paper be viewed so radically different by these five professors?
Perspective. Perspective is everything.
Likewise, for the most part the individuals in my life, friends, colleagues, and clients have been delighted about my new venture. Excited for me that I will be experiencing life in a new way as I coach, write, and enjoy my time in nature and with my animals traveling on the road. This response seems a no-brainer, someone doing something they want to do so you celebrate with them, even though it may on one hand be a loss for yourself. Yet I also received perceptions of my adventure as a loss for me (per them), or as a narcissistic, and selfish gesture.
Isn’t perspective interesting?
The fascinating thing about another person’s perspective is that it is theirs, not mine so for better or worse, it is not my issue it is theirs. To make things even better the really great thing about my perspective is that I can change it. I can decide whether it brings suffering or joy to me. The people that are choosing to celebrate my new adventure with me are choosing joy, coming from a higher place on the spiritual ladder so to speak. And for those that have chosen otherwise the good news is they can choose to step up the ladder anytime they desire.
Perspective is the way we decorate our world. How are you decorating your world today? Take a step up the ladder. The air is cleaner, the view is clearer, and life becomes much sweeter!
Once upon a time in a small village a man owned some land. One day a herd of wild horses came to reside on this man’s property. His neighbors were so excited! They told him this is great. You are a very wealthy man now. The man only replied, “maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad”. Then the man’s son decided he would train the stallion of this wild herd, and in the process the stallion dumped the son and the son’s leg was broken. The neighbors were so upset! This is awful they replied, “what will you do now that your son has a broken leg?” Again, the man only replied, “maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad”. At this same time the King of this man’s country declared war on another country, and began conscripting young men into the army. Needless to say this man’s son could not go because he had a broken leg.
Original Source Unknown
This story is one of my favorites. It reminds me that in any given moment my judgment of an event is wrong. The story suggests that I might want to suspend titles such as “good” or “bad” because I simply do not have the power to know how that event will play out in the future. “Good” and “bad” are labels I give an event depending on the story I have created about how that event will impact myself or others. The story I create is no more accurate then the story that someone else might create about the same event.
So has a herd of wild horses appeared in your world today? If so remember, “maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad”, or maybe it is just another part of your life’s journey. What story will you create today? Make it fun!
That is your legacy on this Earth when you leave this Earth:
how many hearts you touched.
Legacy is in one sense the concrete things you leave behind. Yet legacy is far more than things, legacy is the quality of all the energy you leave behind. Will it be positive or negative? Will it be love or fear? Will it build up or tear down? Will it heal or harm? What will you leave behind? Will you leave the world better than you found it?
We are always leading someone. Primarily ourselves, but also others.
How are you leading your chosen life?
How are you a leader for others?