B.A.D…BAD ASS Day

We can get through anything if we have someone to share it with.
Mary Ann Kraus
I have a confession to make. I’m not much of a Bad Ass, however I do on occasion have a BAD ASS DAY. Hopefully that doesn’t surprise you.
Several weeks ago I was having one of those bad ass days. Everything was poised to fall into place, and it wasn’t, ugh. By the end of the day I was almost in tears tending to my adorable donkeys telling them my tale of woe. As I removed the fly mask from my white donkey’s eyes I noticed he had a single tear in his right eye, startled I looked at my brown donkey, and she had a single tear in her right eye. I burst into tears. They had been listening, and added there tears to mine, or so it felt.
Granted the donkeys tears might have been due to the heat, the dust, the flies but for me that day they were lending their ears to hear my story, and share the burden. And well I felt better after that, and the next day the pieces started to drop into place.
The pieces not falling into place, feeling burdened? Contact me, you talk, I’ll listen.

Not Most Folks!

You can worry about most people all day but I can
promise you they are not worried about you.  Almost all growth that’s
available to you exists when you aren’t most people and when
you work hard to appeal to folks that are not most people.
Seth Godin

Have you ever had something that you wanted to do and you were very excited about it? Then you told people about it and you received pained looks, panicked expressions, head shakes, oh no, and questions such as, “Why would you want to do that?” And your excitement went flat, your balloon was flattened, the wind beneath your wings disappeared?

I was born loving horses. I wanted to ride, train, and breed horses, and it was not a career choice my parents were thrilled about me pursing… a vet, a doctor, an attorney, a business owner… yes, but a horse trainer. Well it wasn’t something they thought I could do and support myself.

Can anyone relate? I am sure some of you can.

What I didn’t know then is that growth occurs when we don’t listen to most people. Growth occurs when we go deep inside, take a step, find our path, and live true to it. Growth stops when we fail to trust our own journey, and listen to the well-meaning but un-supportive and often bad advice of others.

Find people that support that path. Find people that want to join the journey, and serve them.

Who supports your path? Do you? Who else?

Need support? Can’t find your path? Let’s talk.

And remember don’t be most people!

Think Them So!

Think Them So!
The surest way to make a man is, to think him so.
James Russell Lowell

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Marsha Ferrick Heiden, PhD, BCC

As a professional coach I have conversations with many people from all walks of life. Time and again I have seen miraculous changes in people’s lives sometimes within days.

The man that ran a very successful business but lived in a rundown dump, and was afraid to purchase a house. Takes his foot off the brakes and puts the wheels in motion, and within few months finds and buys the perfect house.

The twenty-year old afraid to date signs up on match.com after finding out she could make it fun. She finds that in fact she is date-able!

The chronically depressed client that has had years of treatment and traditional therapy, suddenly takes flight.

The guy who always wanted his own business but couldn’t quite get all the pieces in place, launches his dream venture.

Why did coaching help them change their lives? Why did coaching help them move into the reality of their dreams when other things had not?

I have pondered this question a great deal as I have marveled at the effectiveness of coaching in people’s lives. This is what I have decided:

They were ready.

They found support that believed in them without doubt or hesitation, me, their coach.

They felt empowered, and thus could persevere.

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Who can you believe in and support today?

Who believes in you and can support your dream today?

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Need support?

Email me.

Are You Soaring?

The white winged dove, a bird made famous by the song “On the Edge of seventeen” written and performed by Stevie Nicks. Nicks said the white winged dove symbolized the spirit leaving the body. The white winged dove plentiful in the southwest is not an especially auspicious bird when viewed at the top of a Saguaro where they imbibe on the fruit of this cactus that lives in the Sonoran Desert.
The white doves have a soft grey taupe coat with a bit of white016cb5a5 112c 4d02 b915 0d5911dd005b - Are You Soaring? trim at the bottom of their wings. If you look closely enough, they have a beautiful blue eye shadow framing their orange colored eyes. Their subtle beauty is magnified 100 fold when they fly, the white edge of the wing becomes a distinctive white band midway up the wings and a white tail band appears.
Like the white winged dove my clients are often unassuming until they take off and soar into the lives they want to create for themselves. I get the pleasure of dafa7204 7641 45e1 990b 74ac7df4b647 - Are You Soaring?watching them soar, and their true beauty is revealed, as they open their wings and take flight. Perhaps as Nicks said, the dove is a symbolization of the spirit leaving the body. I’d like to believe that the white winged dove represents the beauty of the flight of the spirit within all of us as we soar toward the life we want to create for ourselves. As my clients learn to create the lives they want they soar, and their beauty touches many lives, and I am blessed to know them.
Where in your life is your spirit soaring?