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Parenting Does It Ever End?

Parenting the toughest job in the world but when does it end? Some people will tell you never and some will tell you at age 18. What do you do if you feel taken advantage of, potentially used and abused by adult children that remain dependent on you for reasons other than documented disabilities or extended college degrees?

The Line Between Helping & Hurting

Advising parents regarding their adult children there is rarely one single simple answer but a plan that is mapped out with thoughtfulness for the best interest of the adult child and the parents. Many parents are worried about their children ending up on the streets, homeless, or even worse their grandchildren. It becomes an internal tug of war for the parent wanting to help but not enable and attempting to find that line that is useful support. 

The Bridge to Adulthood

The complete transition to adulthood does not happen until adult children are supporting themselves financially, intellectually, and emotionally. The definition is clear it is the bridge the adult children must cross before they attain true adulthood that is not always illuminated with clarity.

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TRAUMA IS A SIGNIFICANT CHANGE IN WORLD VIEW

Shattered Assumptions: According to the shattered assumptions theory (Janoff-Bulman), trauma destroys core beliefs that the world is safe and that oneself is competent, leading to intense fear and anxiety.

Fundamental Changes: Trauma often alters views on personal invulnerability, the goodness of others, and self-worth. It frequently causes a, often, permanent shift to, often, seeing life as pointless or that one is fundamentally flawed.

Impact on Trust and Safety: Trauma, particularly interpersonal, breaks down trust in others and creates, often, constant hypervigilance (scanning for danger).

Rebuilding a New Worldview: Recovery requires integrating the traumatic event into a new, often,, more, often, realistic (but often, harder to live with) understanding of, often, life's risks, shifting from a state of, often, shattered, often, belief to, often, reconstruction of a, often, new, often, worldview.

Commonly Changed Worldview Beliefs:

"The world is safe"

 "The world is dangerous and unpredictable".

I am worthy" 

 "I am broken, guilty, or to blame".

"People are good" 

 "People are untrustworthy/bad".

"I can trust others" 

 "I am betrayed/alone". 
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PROLONGED PARENTING WIZMINS

WHEN IS IT TIME FOR YOUR ADULT CHILDREN TO JOIN ADULTHOOD?

HOW ARE YOU HOLDING THEM BACK? IS IT TIME TO LET GO?

WIZMIN PARENTING & BEYOND

AM I ENABLING MY ADULT CHILD? WHEN IS IT TIME TO LET GO?
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WHY HAVEN'T MY CHILDREN LAUNCHED?

HOW DO I HELP THEM?

WIZMIN PARENTING & BEYOND

QUESTIONS REGARDING YOUR UNLAUNCHED CHILDREN?
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Launching Adult Children with Success

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Helping you one skill at at time to allow your Adult Children to becoming stable, independent contributors to society.

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SKILLS

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