Most parents want to be the best role models they can be for their children but fewer take the time to educate themselves beyond what they learned from their own parents. They think that their parents did an okay job raising them so it should work for their children.
If only it were that easy , first we know that not everyone had an okay childhood. Often the parents want to not do what their parents did but if not that then what? Every generation faces changes, and the advancement of technology and science will continue to create a world that evolves and an even faster pace. The powers that be may desire to reverse that evolution but short of a nuclear war that possibility is slim.Â
Given these facts how do we prepare our children for a world that we may not recognize by the time they graduate from high school. These are new skills beyond those of science and technology sometimes referred to as soft skills I would venture to refer to them as the necessity skills. The skills our children will need to continue to create a happy & positive life for themselves. are not taught in school systems, hopefully they will learn many at home with their parents.Â
Today many us continue to trip over ourselves without the right skills. Using addictions, blaming others, being victims of circumstances, and unaware that everything we want is within our reach if we choose to grow and develop new skills. Let’s give our children the skills the need for a meaningful in a rapidly changing world.
Life in Progress is here to help. This is a small sample of what we hope to continue to offer. Take your time look around. No pressure, just support to help you be the best for your children.
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Based on the philosophy presented in Parenting Perks, parenting is viewed not just as a biological role, but as a deliberate career and a commitment to becoming a positive hero for your children.
To raise happy, healthy, and productive children, parenting is defined through these core pillars:
Parenting is the act of evolving beyond the "okay" methods learned from previous generations. It requires a parent to actively educate themselves to meet the challenges of a rapidly changing world. A "Hero Parent" prepares children for the future by mastering and teaching necessity skills (soft skills) that aren't typically taught in schools.
A critical part of raising healthy children is understanding and mitigating the impact of Trauma. As it relates to parenting, this means:
Protecting the Worldview: Helping children maintain a sense of safety, benevolence, and predictability.
Shattered Assumptions: Recognizing that trauma can destroy a child's belief in their own worth and the goodness of others. Parenting involves being the "secure attachment figure" that provides the support needed to navigate an unpredictable world.
To ensure productivity and happiness, parenting involves the consistent application of specific behavioral systems and relational arts:
Routine & Systems: Implementing structures like an AM Routine for Kids to create stability.
The Art of Listening: Mastering the ability to "listen without solving," which is identified as the key to deep, long-term relationships.
Positive Communication: Learning to give negative feedback in a way that maintains positive feelings and keeps lines of communication open.
Active Connection: Choosing to "turn toward" children rather than away, which fundamentally shapes the long-term bond.
Raising a healthy child requires vigilance in both physical safety (such as Car Seat Safety) and social safety, such as identifying and stopping Sibling Violence before it causes lasting damage.
Read MoreKey Takeaway: Parenting is defined as the choice to stop "tripping over ourselves" with old habits or addictions and instead choosing to grow, develop new skills, and provide the emotional tracking and support children need to thrive.
Helping you one skill at at time to improve your interactions with your children.