Write A Letter to Your Abuser/Attacker/Non-Protectors
There are times when it is necessary to face the monsters whether they are within us or outside of us. I am not suggesting this be done in person. If this is something you want to do please sit down with a mental health counselor and look at the pros and cons of doing so. In this exercise there is no reason to be measured or reasonable. Write this letter with true transparency to those who have hurt you or failed to protect you. This is not a letter to send. Be as angry, hurt and blunt, as you want. Let it be a cleansing. Write this letter more than once until there is nothing left to say. Do it daily. Repeat the exercise for the others that failed you. Only do one person at a time. This is not the time to rationalize or make excuses for these people. It is the time to purge any remaining intense emotions directly at who they need to be aimed at.
Some of you will want to excuse and reason away what was done to you. Understand that although many of these individuals were doing the best they could with the skills they had at the time, the damage to you was still done. Your feelings are valid and real and it is okay to give voice to them. As we grow and our understanding develops we get the reasons why people do what they do but this place here and now is for your healing, not theirs. Should you desire to actually send a letter work with a therapist on how to do so. At Life in Progress with live with the model do no further harm because we do not want to become the person doing damage to another.