PARENTING PERKS: TO BE THE ROLE MODEL YOUR CHILDREN NEED

They Need a Hero

If only it were that easy , first we know that not everyone had an okay childhood. Often parents want to not do what their parents did but if not that then what? Every generation faces changes, and the advancement of technology and science will continue to create a world that evolves at an even faster pace.

Be the Hero Parent

Given these facts how do we prepare our children for a world that we may not recognize by the time they graduate from high school. These new skills beyond those of science and technology are sometimes referred to as soft skills I would venture to refer to them as the necessity skills. The skills our children will need to continue to create a happy & positive life for themselves are not taught in school systems. Hopefully they will learn many at home from us, their parents.

Power Up for Parenting

Today many of us continue to trip over ourselves without the right skills. Using addictions, blaming others, being victims of circumstances, and unaware that everything we want is within our reach if we would choose to develop healthier and more effective skills. We deprive our children of healthy skills when we deny our own shortcomings. If we want to give our children the skills they need for a meaningful life in a rapidly changing world then we must embrace learning them first. This may seem an overwhelming task but here you can learn one skill at a time.

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TRAUMA IS A SIGNIFICANT CHANGE IN WORLD VIEW

Based on the philosophy presented in Parenting Perks, parenting is viewed not just as a biological role, but as a deliberate career and a commitment to becoming a positive hero for your children.

To raise happy, healthy, and productive children, parenting is defined through these core pillars:

1. The "Hero Parent" Philosophy

Parenting is the act of evolving beyond the "okay" methods learned from previous generations. It requires a parent to actively educate themselves to meet the challenges of a rapidly changing world. A "Hero Parent" prepares children for the future by mastering and teaching necessity skills (soft skills) that aren't typically taught in schools.

2. Building Resilience Against Trauma

A critical part of raising healthy children is understanding and mitigating the impact of Trauma. As it relates to parenting, this means:

Protecting the Worldview: Helping children maintain a sense of safety, benevolence, and predictability.
Shattered Assumptions: Recognizing that trauma can destroy a child's belief in their own worth and the goodness of others. Parenting involves being the "secure attachment figure" that provides the support needed to navigate an unpredictable world.

3. Mastery of "Necessity Skills"

To ensure productivity and happiness, parenting involves the consistent application of specific behavioral systems and relational arts:

Routine & Systems: Implementing structures like an AM Routine for Kids to create stability.
The Art of Listening: Mastering the ability to "listen without solving," which is identified as the key to deep, long-term relationships.
Positive Communication: Learning to give negative feedback in a way that maintains positive feelings and keeps lines of communication open.
Active Connection: Choosing to "turn toward" children rather than away, which fundamentally shapes the long-term bond.

4. Proactive Safety and Well-being

Raising a healthy child requires vigilance in both physical safety (such as Car Seat Safety) and social safety, such as identifying and stopping Sibling Violence before it causes lasting damage.

Key Takeaway: Parenting is defined as the choice to stop "tripping over ourselves" with old habits or addictions and instead choosing to grow, develop new skills, and provide the emotional tracking and support children need to thrive.