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THE BASICS

"Self-improvement requires learning, practicing, generalizing, and refining skills. These actions require foundational tools and methods to evaluate the effectiveness of the skills used. A few basic skills are helpful in these processes."

MARSHA FERRICK

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life In Progress

Helping you one skill at at time to improve your interactions through review & assessment.

At LIFE IN PROGRESS the basics are about learning how to:

• Assess the effectiveness of our skill use
• Identify our vulnerabilities
• Consider alternative skills that might be more effective in similar circumstances

The basics are about not making the same mistake over and over again not about blaming others. In reality, the basics are the guidebook or game film to a better us by increasing awareness and insight so we stop blaming others and becoming an adult that takes responsibility for their actions.

Reasons It Feels Like Ground Hogs Day

Awareness

We lack self-awareness and insight into our role when things do not go right.

Insight

We are unable to see how our actions are a part of how things go sideways in ineffective interactions.

Blame

It is way easier to blame others than it is to correct our own actions but blame keeps us powerless and in the victim role in our lives.

Victim Role

Once we are stuck in the victim role there is no way out because we have moved ourselves into a position of powerlessness. Until we move into a role of ownership we remain mired in our own misery. Once we move to ownership our choices multiply.

Fragile Ego

Fragile ego says that we cannot be wrong. If we are wrong we will splinter into pieces and no longer exist. Once we can acknowledge that we are human that with our humanness comes the capacity to error we can begin to move into adulthood.

Review

Failure to assess and evaluate what went wrong and what well leaves us limit. Utilizing the same skills over and over again with the same unattended vulnerabilities and thus we continue to get the same results. Hence ground hogs day again!

Take Your Time. START HERE. Move at Your Own Speed

Foundational Skills & Assessing Your Effectiveness

Be increasingly effective in today's world

The Tools We Need

Problems and challenges are a part of everyday living but few of us were given all the tools we need to overcome never mind succeed in a world that is rapidly changing. The ability to adapt and to be effective in today’s world is exceedingly challenging. Therefore are options have become more limited.

The Tools We Lack

Given this there are only two alternatives 1) consciously determine to grow and change or 2) regress to extinction. Luckily, it isn’t complicated, but it is a choice to grow and become an effective individual in your life.

Choosing to Grow Up

It means giving up being right all the time. It means being intentional in word and deed. It means learning, practicing, refining and trying again. Relinquishing the right to blame others for your words and actions. In the end it means growing up and choosing to act as an adult in a world that too often devolves into petty childish behaviors instead of reasonable discourse.

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Life in Progress is here to help you. Explore the the titles below for skills you will need to learn and perfect other skills.

WIZMINIS

Basic Tools are Esential to Continued Growth

The Basics Tools are tools that you can use to measure the effectiveness of the skill(s) you use throughout the day. In reviewing your day consider the skills that you used and how effective they were or not. What worked? What didn't? Were there vulnerabilities (see Foundation Fortifiers) If the skill was not effective or there were vulnerabilities what could you do differently next time? How might you refine the skills? What other skill(s) might you try? How might you minimize or eliminate the vulnerabilities? Like any other new learning we must review how effective the skill is or how effective we are utilizing it? Continuing the growth & refinement process towards becoming our best self.

SKILL MASTERY=IDENTIFY+LEARN+PRACTICE+REVIEW+INTEGRATE+REFINE

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Words that Say, "I Lack Self-Awareness"

"It is your fault"

Blaming others will never improve your lot.

"I don't do that"

Said without hesitation it sounds like denial, a reaction to criticism. A better response might be, Do I? I had not noticed that. Thank you I will pay more attention to that.

"You started it"

Does it matter who started the conversation? How old do you sound when you make this statement.

"You're overreacting"

This is invalidating someone else's feelings. If one person is upset the other one should also be upset. It may be at different levels of intensity but it doesn't mean anyone is overreacting.

"You always blame me"

Here we have moved to victim mode. We have disempowered ourselves. The problem and solution are now in someone else's hands. A better response might be, "help me understand what I did that is so upsetting to you." Simple, elegant adult.

"Here we go again, Why do you always ruin things?"

Again we have take the victim role, given up power, and handed to the other person. A better response might be, "This keeps coming up it sounds like it is a problem for you so let's talk it through so I can really understand it then perhaps we can come to a better resolution about it." Again an adult response, let's talk more, I can hold space for your feelings around this, I care about you, we can get through this together.

"Here we go again, Why do you always ruin things?"

own your part

as long as you deny ownership you will continue to remain in the Powerless position of a victim. when you decide to be the owner of you life you can take control of it and your life will begin to change for the better.

-Ask Yourself, “what is my part in this mess?”
-evaluate what happened
-where was my self care lacking?
-what skill(s) didn’t work?
-how do i make an amend?
-what can i do differently next time?

Owning your life is the best decision you can make…now you have taken back your power to manage yourself & your life

What is a BCA?

A behavior chain analysis is an assessment of past behavior for efffectiveness.

What is running game file?

Running game film is a shortened version of a BCA that can be done in your head for a quick on the spot evaluation so corrections can be done immediately if needed.

Why are BCAs & running game film important?

Like top athletes reviewing our behaviors helps us make better choices and enhance our skills over time.

What is the value of mindfulness in assessing and evaluating our skills?

The ability to observe, and describe is primary to completing an assessment before the evaluation begins. Then it helps us be an observer (dual awareness) of our behavior as we consider our part and what would have done better.

Why is Wise or Balanced Mind Important?

This is the place we make the best evaluations and choices for the future.

WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW?

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Small Ways to Begin: Start Where You Are

Practice One BCA on a Simple Action
Review a Behavior using Running Game Film
Practice Mindfulness-Observing
Practice Mindfulness-Describing
Practice Mindfulness-Participating
Make a Small Decision Using Wise/Balanced Mind

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THE BASICS

Create Better Experiences

life In Progress

Reasons It Feels Like Ground Hogs Day

Take Your Time. START HERE. Move at Your Own Speed

Foundational Skills & Assessing Your Effectiveness

Be increasingly effective in today's world

The Tools We Need

The Tools We Lack

Choosing to Grow Up

Help is Here

WIZMINIS

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WHAT ARE THE BASICS?

Basic Tools are Esential to Continued Growth

WIZMINS

SKILL MASTERY=IDENTIFY+LEARN+PRACTICE+REVIEW+INTEGRATE+REFINE

FOCUS IS ESSENTIAL TO AWARENESS

WIZMIN MINDFULNESS

EVALUATING PRESENT ACTIONS

WIZMIN TOOLS

BEHAVIORAL ANALYSIS

WIZMIN TOOLS

THE PERSPECTIVE OF OTHERS

WIZMIN TOOLS

HOW ARE YOU ATTENDING?

WIZMIN TOOLS

THE MAGIC OF MINDFULNESS

WIZMIN TOOLS

Words that Say, "I Lack Self-Awareness"

own your part

as long as you deny ownership you will continue to remain in the Powerless position of a victim. when you decide to be the owner of you life you can take control of it and your life will begin to change for the better.

WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW?

MASTER WHAT MATTERS: Discover What You Can Do

EXPLORE

IN-DEPTH LEARN WIZORS

PREPARE

NO THREAT PRACTICE WIZPRACS

REFINE

MASTERY PRACTICE WIZ1-2-1

TEACH & TRAIN

CHANGE THE WORLD WIZARDRY SCHOOL TRAINING

Small Ways to Begin: Start Where You Are

CURATED MEDIA FOR EXPLORATION

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